Mentor And Mindset Coach James Peters Teaches That Even Through
Adversity A New Future Is Always Available.
Certified Jay Shetty Transformational Mindset Coach James Peters
has experienced the hardships of loss and debilitating grief that
follows. Despite all the challenges he's faced, he came out of it a
new person and is teaching others how they can do the same.
Here are some key points that I would advise you to concentrate
Your current point does not need to be your end point. You can
change your life at any time.
It is not a weakness to ask for help, it is a sign of strength
to see something that is not working right for you, and finding an
expert who can assist you fixing this. You don't need to know
everything to change. You just need to start.
"We are not taught in school how to think". Don't beat yourself
up for doing what you needed to survive with the knowledge you knew
at the time. Yet, it is time to change now.
We are often shaped by the culture we grow up in, what our
parents tell us, our culture experiences, our religious
experiences. These shape us as kids, but as we age we start to
create our own identity. You can decide who you want to be.
Your past does not need to dictate your future.
A mindset coach like James can help you address the thoughts,
emotions and issues that are holding you back. You can work on
yourself, but it can be difficult to avoid falling into bias, blame
etc. A mindset coach can help you look at things and understand
them with a clear heart and mind, that won't let you create a story
to avoid dealing with things.
"The mind can be a trickster, always playing tricks on
you." We can create a story on an event or situation, and tend
to look at the negative side of things. When you can learn the
skills to look from above your thoughts, rather than just reacting
to them, you start to understand the message from them, and what
true fixes you can do to resolve them.
Medication is a great short-term help, but rarely helps after a
long time without further work on how you identity with the pain,
"Frequency beats chemisty". A change in your internal frequency
with meditation, breath work etc, can help you level up your
frequency and help you heal and grow more than meds can do after
their short term fix.
"Everyone wants the quick fix and in a lot of case no one
wants to do the inner work" that really helps.
Silence can really help, no screens, no distractions, let
silence fall and truly feel your body, listen to the thoughts pass,
be comfortable with yourself and learn to love yourself.
Travel outside your normal environment can be a great way to
help see things in a different light, by changing your environment,
you can change how you view things. I certainly find going for a
walk in nature really helps me think clearer, more positive and
just helps me smile and recharge myself. Try it!
"Pain to purpose". You can learn how to use your pain
to push you on, to chase a purpose in your life.
Change will take time, don't expect miracles but you will
notice gradual change. People will comment on it, and you are
normally the last one to know. Work on yourself each day and you
will be surprised at how amazing a change that will take
If you are feeling suicidal, please don't do anything drastic.
Give it one more try. Reach out to a friend. Speak to someone.
Email me. Suicide is never the answer.
Treat your 'I can't go on point' as the starting point to
discovering the new you and starting the journey to your true self
and happiness. You have found what hasn't worked, so take time to
find what does for you.
Take some time out and make yourself the priority, work on
yourself, fix your health, exercise, try new things, cull broken
relationships, learn to be happy with yourself.
"Be committed to change". Try to do something every
"Start small. Micro-goals". Start small and build up.
Don't expect miracles, but work on yourself and let the wins roll
together into a rolling ball of success.
A gratitude journal to record small things you are grateful is
a great tool, it shows you how much you have in your life to be
"You are the mountain, and your thoughts are the
clouds" See them pass by. You don't always need to react,
believe them or pay them attention. Look at them from above, are
the thoughts true? Worthy of your time? Helpful? You know the real
you, your thoughts are just parts of your brain suggesting things
based on your bias, current mindset etc, they are not always true,
helpful or worth your time. Listen to your true self. Separate
yourself from feelings, emotions and thoughts.
"Usually anger comes from the past".
"Whatever we are afraid of, if we don't deal with it, it
"Forgiveness is one of the hardest things we can do". Forgive
yourself. Stop beating yourself up, stop destroying yourself. You
can't change things, you will be "on a hamster wheel to
"Know thyself. That is the journey. The journey
within". Stop looking outside yourself, you can learn to be
happy, your are worthwhile and deserving of happiness, health and
love, especially to yourself. "You have to go and find who you
Write out a list of things that you love about yourself. Repeat
it everyday and learn to love yourself, learn the value you give to
the world and others. It is not a chance to be egotistical, but you
need to learn your own value.
Use the concept of 'Future Self'. You are always building the
future self of you every day. Each of your actions today are
creating the future self that you will be. Make your actions work
for you, act right, to become the person you want to be, in three
months, six months etc.
Stop expecting and start accepting. Nothing will fix you. No
marriage, no kid etc. Nothing will make you whole. You just need to
discover yourself and your purspose and work on loving yourself and
doing good in the world, and you will feel complete in a way that
no material goods or experiences will ever provide you with.
"Be authentic. Stop trying to fit in ... stop trying to fit
into situations." Be yourself and your people will find
"A new future is always available ... who do you want to
"Your inputs shape your outputs". What you take in
shapes you as a person. You can't expect a diet of soap TV shows,
negative news, social media binges etc to give you a positive
mindset. Go to the gym, journal, meditate etc. Give yourself the
best, positive mindset inputs to help you be at your best and do
the things you want in life.
"Everything is within you".
Look to help others, look to give back to others. Share a
smile, a help or a positive interaction. Make the world around you
better in someway each day.
Select a coach that you resonate. Interview your coaches. Do
not select the first one. Be the interviewer rather than just
someone that pays their bills. Find someone you are happy and
confident with, and work with them.
About the Podcast
The Next Level Guy Show, a podcast where I interview experts to learn the hacks and tips to better our own lives. The website URL is https://www.nextlevelguy.com/ and previous guests have included Gary Vaynerchuk, Tom Bilyeu, Diamond Dallas Page, Mark Bell, Aubrey Marcus, Jay Morton, Jay Cutler, Josh Barnett, Mark Beaumont, Forrest Galante among others.