Apr 8, 2022
Today’s guest is Robb Kelly!
Robb Kelly, PhD is a renowned
addiction consultant who believes in treating the problem of
addiction, not the symptoms. He has worked for many years helping
addicts and alcoholics to recover their lives from the disease of
addiction. Based on his own experiences working with addicts and
alcoholics over the last 20 years, a PhD in Psychology from Oxford
University and as a recovered alcoholic himself – he is a triple
threat against the disease of addiction. Dr. Kelly was the CEO of a
thriving telecommunications company when the walls came crashing
down on him due to alcoholism. He ended up homeless and broken on
the streets of Manchester, England until he found the courage to
save himself.
He has lectured on the subject
of addiction at many high-profile universities, national
conferences, public schools, churches, business organizations and
hospitals, and is recognized as a leading authority on addiction
recovery methods that are changing lives all around the
world. Dr. Kelly is
currently the CEO of the Robb Kelly Recovery Group, an addiction
recovery coaching company he created based on extensive research
and behaviour studies that he conducted over the last 20 years. Dr.
Kelly’s methods may seem unconventional leading some people to
refer to him as "The Gordon Ramsay of the Addiction World" because
of his direct, no-nonsense, and candid approach to treating
addiction. Dr. Kelly works to "make the road of recovery less of a
mystery tour."
He is passionate about educating
the public and professionals on the dangers of alcohol and
drugs.
A sought-after recovery expert,
Dr. Kelly has appeared on such shows as The Doctors, Eye Opener, Good Morning Texas,
and Kens5 morning news. A sample of radio and print interviews
include The Jim Bohannon
show, Miracles in Recovery, and USA Today. Dr. Kelly hosted Sober Celebs show on KLIF radio
in Dallas, and currently hosts
the Recovery
Channel podcast
featuring special guest discussing a variety of mental health
issues.
Instructor/speaker for
Let’s Get Back to 98%
Recovery DVD’s used in
prisons and recovery treatment centers throughout the US. Dr. Kelly
shares his personal highs and lows as he struggled and overcame
crippling alcoholism in the November 2019 release of the book
“Daddy, Daddy Please
Stop Drinking”.
In this interview, we discuss:
- The true causes of addiction.
- How our past is shaping our future and how we can resolve the
issues we are carrying around.
- Why you need to and how to make amends.
- And so much more.
The last ten minutes on making amends is life changing!
Here are some key points that I would advise you to concentrate
on
- Alcoholics are born and not made. Alcoholics are a
predisposition condition, passed down through
generations.
- Alcohol has one percent to do with alcoholics. It is a symptom
of the problem.
- There are various scopes of addiction, but the traits and
behaviors are typically the same.
- Alcoholism is not a behavioral problem, it is not a choice. It
is a progressive illness, one that normally ends in violent
actions.
- An alcoholic/addict cannot moderate their consumption, it is
never enough.
- Most of the addiction in the brain is accelerated through
self-sabotaging behavior.
- We need to work on our inner child, to deal with the trauma
that is held in our life. We only see the big things, and not the
little waves that build up to the tidal wave of
destruction.
- We are born with Million Dollar Minds, don't hang around with
people with 10 cent views of the world.
- You can be the leader that you see others are, you need to find
that inner faith in yourself.
- We attract who we think we are worth. You want to attract
someone better, you need to change the level of worth you feel
about yourself.
- Our past doesn't define who we are. You can decide right now to
change your life.
- Our past can be our greatest asset, but it can also be our
greatest prison, you need to come to peace with it, heal it and use
it as an asset to become a better man.
- We do not shake off our trauma, and try and push it down in our
lives. Yet we focus on the bad things and ignore the amazing things
that we do.
- Everyone is perfectly imperfect. Everyone has problems and has
done bad things in their life. Stop thinking you are the only
one.
- The brain will believe what we hear, and what we hear we
believe. Your brain will listen to your inner voice as much as
those around you. Eliminate the 10 cent views from others and
yourself.
- "Show me your friends, and I will show you your future"!
- The sub conscious brain is where all the trauma is. Everything
we see, feel and believe is stored there, and like a computer needs
to be organised and cleaned out.
- The medical scene in America is controlled by money, there is
no money in recovery, but there is in pills etc.
- Robb wants to help you with the deep dark shit, the things you
want to take to your grave, what's the stuff that is killing you
deep inside.
- Stop letting others destroy your dreams.
- What you tell a child, they probably will become. We all have
trauma that we pass on to our kids as well.
- We see the problems others are facing, but we rarely look at
ourself and deal with our own problems.
- The abused tend to become abusers because we repeat what we
learnt from others.
- Change your life by doing small things differently, like
brushing your teeth with the other hand, build new neural pathways
and reshape your brain to change your life.
- Every successful has a daily routine to create success in their
life.
- The key to success in your life is the belief you have in
yourself.
- "We wouldn't speak to ourselves the way we talk to
yourself!"
- You'll find out your true friends when you find out your true
worth."
- Hang around with the guys that you want to be like.
- "Stop putting the brakes on your own imagination!". We have a
mind that can do anything, but it starts with you.
- You need to make amends for the bad shit you do, but the amends
is for you, not them. It helps you deal with the trauma, the bad
crap you are carrying, you deal with it, and not push it down and
undiscover it and discard.
- What we put out in the world will always come back to us. Be
the good Samaritan, help others, give out good energy.
- "Anybody can change if you want to"