Today’s guest is Coach Tom Davey, from the Grappling
Coach Tom began coaching Brazilian
Jiu-Jitsu as early as 2006. He has been fascinated by grappling for
close to 20 years. Coach Tom spends his days devoted to furthering
his art by teaching and studying Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu full time from
dusk til dawn! As a college graduate with high academic
credentials, Coach Tom continues his commitment to excellence by
teaching Jiu-Jitsu to students worldwide.
With a unique ability to teach techniques with a high level of
detail in an easy-to-understand manner, Coach Tom's goal is to
spread the knowledge of Jiu-Jitsu to all corners of the globe and
help as many people as possible experience the wonder of 'The
Coach Tom Davey is the South Australian head for BJJ Australasia
under 5th-degree black belt John Will and holds a black belt under
8th-degree coral belt Carlos Machado.
In this interview, we discuss the topics of BJJ, competing, and
why it might be the best thing you ever do.
Here are some key points that I would advise you to concentrate
Not everyone needs to compete, it is entirely up to the
person whether to compete or not or if you are just trying for the
fitness and/or self-defense side of things.
Competition is a great way to discover where your skills
currently are, what you need to work on, and where your strengths
Is there a mindset shift needed to go from a BJJ hobbyist to a
BJJ athlete and competitor?
Tom sees competing as one of the best powerful self-development
tools he has experienced.
By competing, you are embracing the risk of danger and
challenge, and it will teach you to feel comfortable in that
Competing will help you improve mentally as well as
What advice would Tom give to those who are unable to train
right now due to the Coronavirus situation?
The benefits of training dummies
The reps needed to truly learn the movement pattern
What he would advise you to do away from BJJ when you can't
How can people overcome the fear of competing in BJJ?
When you lose, you still learn and gain a lot from the
experience. You learn the lesson that your fears are BS, that no
one will think less of you for losing, true friends will be proud
of you for competing.
When competing, the benefits he received from competing, helped
shift his mindset, and a knock-on effect was a change in how he
rolled which brought about more success for him.
You will feel the fear regardless, fear will never go away.
Knowing it will never go away, instead think about what it is
trying to tell you, acknowledge the feelings, welcome them, listen
to the message, and move forward. You will find your level of fear
is reduced a little more each time.
Regardless of the results, you will learn about yourself at
each tournament. Forget about the outcome of the match and instead
look at the outcome within yourself for trying it.
Advice for an older grappler competing who wishes to start
The voice inside your head needs to be controlled, ignored or
changed etc. The voice is not you, you are not your thoughts.
Identify internal dialogue and separate it from what reality
Fear of competing is all in your own head.
Has Tom found any methods for dealing with anxiety before his
How do we discover our style of game and BJJ?
Why do the top performers tend not to check the brackets of
their competitions and rarely look who they are competing
Similarities in the top performers and their approach to
How should BJJ change from training to working towards a
How a training camp should be set up and what should be the
ultimate aim of the camp?
What advice he would give to those who train with a strict
Learning moves vs learning concepts?
The role of diet in a BJJ athlete and their performance
The lure of PED and other drugs
What is a competition typically like (the day of)
What true confidence is and how competing in BJJ helps you
How to look at loss and the fear of losing
Tom's inspiration for competing
A pupil that has inspired him
The importance of BJJ for kids
"The very thing you are avoiding is the very thing that will
give you what you think it will take away from you"
How did Covid-19 affect him as a businessman
BJJ and mental health
His thoughts on the current pandemic
What he wants you to take from the interview
About the Podcast
The Next Level Guy Show, a podcast where I interview experts to learn the hacks and tips to better our own lives. The website URL is https://www.nextlevelguy.com/ and previous guests have included Gary Vaynerchuk, Tom Bilyeu, Diamond Dallas Page, Mark Bell, Aubrey Marcus, Jay Morton, Jay Cutler, Josh Barnett, Mark Beaumont, Forrest Galante among others.